On my vision board for 2018 there was a big word: TRIBE.
A tribe is viewed, historically or developmentally, as a social group existing before the development of, or outside of, states. Many people used the term “tribal society” to refer to societies organized largely on the basis of social, especially familial, descent groups (see clan and kinship). A customary tribe in these terms is a face-to-face community, relatively bound by kinship relations, reciprocal exchange, and strong ties to place. (source Wikipedia)
Now, in this time and age, you do not have to be an ethnic minority to have a tribe 😉
In my world, a tribe is a group of (extra)ordinary people who have shared ideas, interests, values, goals and needs.
A tribe can be:
- your close group of friends
- the women you go to the movies with once a month
- your book club
- your jogging group
- the people you are still in touch with from your last retreat
- your political party
- your religious community
- a group of colleagues that work on a side project
So there, you already have a tribe!
Tribes are important, for they can move mountains.
Caroline Myss once said, “You only rise as high as the tribe you’re in.”
This correlates directly to a quote from Will Smith: “You can tell how far in life you’ll go by the 5 people you spend the most amount of time with.”
Sure, there is a lot you can do on your own when you have a goal.
But if you surround yourself with a tribe, you can multiply your achievements.
In a tribe you are surrounded by the right people who believe what you believe and support your dreams and allow you to thrive.
It often takes a while before we find our tribe. As children we often want to belong to the ‘in-crowd’ because they are cool. Later on we may be afraid to speak up for ourselves because we have other ideas than the norm. We feel weird, left out, alone. So we try to fit in.
And it doesn’t work. It doesn’t make us happy.
Deep down we know what makes us happy. We know what our passion is and we can deny it by adapting to the ‘in-crowd’ for a while, but eventually things will bubble up. We will have our own little revolution. We will shed friends, row with family and lose a lot.
But we will find ourselves.
And when we find ourselves, we will find our tribe.
Because no matter what your passion is, what makes your heart beat faster, there are other people who feel the same. Yes yes!
If you love crochet and spend all your free time making bags, there is a tribe for you.
If you are into painting but don’t have any inspiration, you can join my tribe.
If you fancy whiskey, there’s a community you can join.
And so on…
You can join an existing tribe. Or create your own.
And there is a difference between being part of a tribe and leading one.
Leading a tribe can do the following:
- change the world (even if only a little bit)
- help you turn your idea into a profitable business
- allow people to find each other and exchange, grow…
- allow you to learn and grow
- create little revolutions
So how do you start a tribe?
- Start with your friends.
Ask them what they think. Maybe they can become your first ‘members’. Test your idea on them. Half of the people who attended my first retreat were friends.
- Write a manifesto.
What is it that you want to do? What is your mantra that will make people want to join in? My mantra is: inspire change through creativity and my manifesto (or values) are here.
- Allow people to connect with you.
Create a newsletter. Write a blog. Set up a Facebook page or group. Show up at networking events. Share your idea. Invite people to ‘join your club’.
- Don’t let money be your prime focus.
Focus should be on your idea and growing the idea. Not on the cash you want to make. If you grow your idea, the cash will come. Create and Connect is a non profit. Sure, it makes money, but that is not its primary goal.
- Try things, improve, make better.
Don’t be afraid of failing. Failure only lets you learn. Imperfect action is better than no action. I have started many projects and had to abandon them. I also started many that I needed to improve. But some were started and grew!
- Know your tribe.
Who are they? What do they need? What do they want? What do they google? How does that relate to your passion? How can you package that passion to meet their needs?
A tribe can be as little as the 5 woman who attended my workshop. It’s enough to make me happy. It can also grow and turn into a world of creative women following their intuition.
Wouldn’t that awesome would that be?
Watch this inspirational video: Seth Godin on tribes