emotions

Life 101 (…or There’s a blog post for everything)

Most of my blog posts started out as discussions with my friends, struggles my clients are facing or things I have liked and learned myself and feel the need to share. The other day, I had such a discussion with a friend about a struggle. And I thought: 'I will write a blog post about that'. And then I thought: 'Wait, I already HAVE a blog post about that!' Funny that. So today I thought I'd share some past posts with you just in case you find yourself in a certain situation. Enjoy! You feel stu [...]

2019-08-27T08:50:13+02:00September 6th, 2019|

The pursuit of happiness and how decisions get in the way

Why be happy when you could be normal? This is the title of a book by Jeannette Winterson The book is about the pursuit of happiness, lessons in love, the search for a mother and a journey into madness and out again. It is generous, honest and true. That's the way I like books. That's the way I think we should all live: generous, honest and true. And it is a hard pursuit. Because along that pursuit lies another pursuit we all have. The pursuit of happiness. 'To be happy' means different things t [...]

2019-02-26T08:36:54+02:00February 22nd, 2019|

Are you a people pleaser?

We all do things for others.  We run errands for our parents. We drive our kids around. We bake a cake for a school event. We make a hairdresser appointment for our partner. We take on the lead of a charity project. And in general there is nothing wrong with it. Unless...  Unless these things no longer fall in the category of kindness but become people pleasing. What's the difference between kindness and people pleasing? Well, if someone asks you to bake a cake for a school event and you think ' [...]

2018-11-22T19:17:48+02:00June 8th, 2018|

How to ‘deal with’ your emotions

Since my recent post about anger, I have had quite a few responses from people thanking me but also asking me for ways to deal with anger and other emotions on a daily basis. Let me get one thing straight before we dive into that. Emotions serve a purpose. Avoiding them or repressing them only makes them (and your life) worse. Unfortunately we are often not taught how to deal with emotions. On the contrary, we are often told that being angry is not good and that there is no time or place for sad [...]

2018-11-29T18:33:50+02:00March 23rd, 2018|

51 insightful ways to find happiness and live a purposeful life

When you ask people what they really want in life, most of the time happiness is in their top three list. Happiness is not easily defined as it means different things to each one of us. Lately though, more and more research goes into that direction and people seem to be more mindful about the simple pleasures in life. Living in the now is no longer just a new age term someone wrote about in a self help book. So if we all want it, why is it so hard to get? You can't buy it (or actually, you CAN a [...]

2019-01-09T11:02:03+02:00July 14th, 2017|