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How (and why) to beat your inferiority complex

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. – Eleanor Roosevelt Some years ago, I was asked by the women’s network of an international bank to speak at their monthly meeting about creativity, finding your passion and work-life balance. When I met the two women, I was impressed by their professionality, their corporate position and the way they seemed to manage their own work life balance. When I am in such meetings, I have a tendency to fall back into one of my default settings, whi [...]

Miranda2019-09-03T10:02:21+02:00September 13th, 2019|

We all break down sometimes. It’s okay!

A few years ago, around this time of year, I had a serious breakdown. Yes, happens to the best of us, even me. The first day of school had gone well. I was proud to have pulled it off again without forgetting half the stuff the teachers always request you have ready on the first day. The kids were happy, had no homework. All honky dory. The next morning, all hell broke loose. The boys were fighting constantly, didn’t want to get dressed or brush their teeth, were moaning and whining about ever [...]

Miranda2018-11-22T19:10:42+02:00September 28th, 2018|

How to ‘deal with’ your emotions

Since my recent post about anger, I have had quite a few responses from people thanking me but also asking me for ways to deal with anger and other emotions on a daily basis. Let me get one thing straight before we dive into that. Emotions serve a purpose. Avoiding them or repressing them only makes them (and your life) worse. Unfortunately we are often not taught how to deal with emotions. On the contrary, we are often told that being angry is not good and that there is no time or place for sad [...]

Miranda2018-11-29T18:33:50+02:00March 23rd, 2018|

A Woman’s Guilt Trip

You eat a piece of chocolate, or two, too many. You arrive late for an appointment. You snap at a friend or colleague, or even your mom on the phone. You buy a pair of shoes you don’t really need. You spend time surfing the web instead of playing with your kids. You went for a massage instead of spending time with your family. You think of Johnny Depp instead of your husband while making love. Whenever I coach women or talk to my friends, at some point the discussion turns to or around the sub [...]

Miranda2019-01-09T11:02:27+02:00July 7th, 2017|